Before training, when another dog approached, his sole focus was on the other dog. No sounds, food or commands could get him to turn his attention towards us for longer than a second. While, most of the time, his behaviours towards other dogs seemed to be playful, as a 100 lb dog, they were problematic and stressful – he would bark, lunge and rush other dogs and their owners. He dragged me across the ground twice in his attempts to get close to another dog, and sometimes, his behaviours did not seem playful to us or to others at all. When people were around, although he rarely barked, he still would pay more attention to them than to us. We were not comfortable with him approaching people and, sometimes, those people were also not comfortable with him, given his size.
We chose to contact Camellia, initially, because the relationship between our two dogs broke down, resulting in Teddy attacking Oreo. Camellia has an impressive back story and track record of success with addressing failing dog relationships and she specializes in addressing problematic aggressive dog behaviours, and she has created a method of training that works.
Honestly, our interest in hiring Camellia started from a place of stress and desperation, but it transitioned into trust because Camellia supported Tim and I through one of the most difficult life events we ever encountered, surrendering a dog. After adopting two dogs in the span of two months and floundering through 7 months of life with them, we lost control (or, we now realize, never had it). Our second rescue, Teddy, who began as an affectionate, albeit dominant presence, began attacking Oreo. What started as apparent resource guarding quickly escalated and it became a daily struggle to either keep them apart or be hyper vigilant when they were in the same room, and we simply had no idea what we were doing wrong.
We had every intention of hiring Camellia to help us get Oreo and Teddy back under control and addressing their failing relationship. Between the time we first contacted her, and our first scheduled training appointment, Camellia supported us without us even having formally hired her. However, during this time, we also made the excruciating decision to surrender Teddy to a home with no other dogs. Camellia also supported us through this difficult decision with compassion, care and truth. We realized that anyone who cares enough to council someone through such a stressful and saddening event truly cares about the quality of life of the dogs and their families.
At this point, although we were now a one dog household, Oreo still reacted strongly to other dogs and it was stressful to not know what to do in those moments – so, we sought Camellia’s expertise and began training with Oreo. My, personal goal, was to never feel so out of control again. In the beginning of the training, it is hard to see what the outcome will be, so while we felt hopeful, we also felt overwhelmed at times. After each lesson, it would usually take me 1-2 days to process the task assigned but then, by the third day, I would feel like I had a grasp of the goal. The first few weeks were the hardest for us. We found it tough to instil boundaries in the house because we were used to Oreo always being in our space, and our “problem” was outside with other dogs. It took awhile for us to realize that everything is connected, even though, logically, we knew that.
Camellia was great during the whole training process – I would message her to express my weakness and difficulty with keeping Oreo crated and she would reassure me to trust the process and to stay strong. Having that accountability was amazing and it got us through the hardest parts of the training. We also felt supported in the teaching part of the training as well. We sent Camellia so many videos of our training sessions at home, and she gave us feedback on all of them! With every video we sent, it built our confidence. Pretty soon, I was taking Oreo off property twice a day to work on our homework in other environments.
Long term goals can be challenging because you forget how much work you have done in the past. Throughout our ongoing training journey, there were small moments of success – when Oreo didn’t need any leash pressure during an entire training session, days where all the training sessions went smoothly, or the first day I opened the front door because I knew there was a dog in front of our house and he didn’t bark or rush out of the door. These successes instilled growing confidence in me throughout the process. THE moment when I knew that we had made real progress happened on April 2nd. I was walking Oreo on the sidewalk in our neighbourhood and another dog approached from the opposite direction on the opposite side of the street. We had had very few of these encounters since starting training in January because we were not ready for that kind of interaction with other dogs and avoided them, but that can only happen for so long. As the dog and their owner approached, I followed through with our plan to turn Oreo in place so his back was to the other dog and he was facing me. He listened immediately and as the dog passed by us, whenever he turned his head/attention to the dog, I called it back to me with the look command. Oreo sat there facing me, yes turning his focus back to me while the other dog passed by, no barking or lunging, not even when the other dog went bananas on the other side of the street. It was an amazing feeling and one that fed my confidence even more.
When we first got Oreo, we wanted to take him everywhere. Oreo was, essentially, our child, so it was a hard realization that we couldn’t due to his behavior. As I am typing this, we have just gotten in from a 2km walk around our block – our block, which has no less than 20 dogs living in the area - this is a route that my husband and I have walked many times and, up until a few weeks ago, a walk that we only dreamt about including Oreo in. While this may seem like a simple example, it demonstrates the fact that we just wanted to be able to have Oreo as a a complete member of our family, incorporated into our everyday activities. Now that we have grown as dog parents and have the tools to provide Oreo with stability and security, having him involved in all aspects of our lives is possible!
I also want to add that we just began Pack Classes that have highlighted the possibilities in life for us. It is highly unlikely that Oreo will ever be more distracted than approaching a group of 20 dogs and their owners!! I am SO EXCITED to get back to class. In the first class, we had to stop about 50 feet away from the group so that we could get Oreo`s attention back on us but we improved from needing to be about 50 feet away from the pack to about 30 feet away from the pack (in 30 minutes!!). By the next class, we were working right next to the pack of dogs. Can you imagine what it will mean for our life with Oreo when we can be actively working within the pack? It is amazing to think about the possibilities.
The training process cam be hard in the beginning and you may feel like it is too much and, even that you want to stop. You might start feeling that you don’t need to follow the program through because your dog’s behaviour doesn’t seem as bad as it used to be, but that is because what you are doing is working! So, stick with it! Remind yourself of why you sought Camellia’s help to begin with and remember that you don’t want to back slide to that feeling of no control (whatever it is that is problematic with your dog’s behaviour IS a loss of control). It may seem like you are doing the same things over and over again but when Camellia tells you that repetition and consistency is what will drive success, she is not telling you what you want to hear – it is 100% accurate.
We would, without hesitation, recommend Camellia to our friends!
-Stephanie and Tim